I don’t know about you, but finding time to talk about the big things is always a challenge. It feels like there are so many other important things to do, that making time for something like talking has a lower priority. It seems to get relegated to the rare date nights, which turns them into something more torturous than a date ever should be! I find that heavy talks, or simply the painful “big subject” ones need a few extra things to make them work.
- Schedule the time and the subject
- Grab a snack
- Get your favorite drinks
- Find a comfortable spot … bring your info to the bed or the couch or the back porch, someplace where you’re both relaxed.
- Put on some music to keep the mood light.
Formalizing it does help in many ways, and is better than relying on a hurried phone conversation, or the 5 minutes when you’re both getting ready in the bathroom in the morning. It doesn’t have to be long, but taking a few minutes to set the stage really helps the discussion along, and keeps it from muddying up the bed or the date or the morning routine. Let me know how it goes!