It’s one thing to recognize we live in a youth obsessed culture, but once you’ve hit 40, you’re officially on the other side: No Longer Youthful.
Yeah, magazines preaching to the peri-menopausal set can prattle on about how “40 is the new 30,” but we all know that’s b.s.. 40 is the threshold for belly fat, for official skinny face, and for behinds which seem to want to drop off the back of us, as if they’re seeking a new owner found on the sidewalk.
I’ve got a simple question this week, so you can answer in a flash in the midst of the holiday flurry, and I’m super curious about the variety of answers. How old were you when you first became a mom … and how old when you had your last? I was 31 for my first, 35 for my 2nd, and I’m still entertaining the notion that there could be another, but I doubt it.
A simple number (or two) is a fine answer, and if you want to elaborate on it that’s always welcome! I turn 40 this week, and of course it’s making me pause and think about a lot of things like this. My sister is coming today too, minus her brood of 4, to spend a week with me, and what could be better than that?!
A few links for your enjoyment, I know it’s a busy time of year but it’s good to find some downtime and just chill, right?
- Mompetition, who I just discovered and love, has a great Interview with Mary @ Pajamas and Coffee video short that hits at, of course, Mompetition …
- Single Dad Laughing (another new find) has the most powerful post on self-image I’ve seen in a long time … please take a few minutes (and perhaps a drink) to read through Worthless Women, and the Men who Make Them. There’s also the companion piece, Worthless Men and the Women Who Make Them, to get the other side of the coin. Great stuff.
- On Bullies : No, You Can’t Punch My Kid … a great post from NaturalAsPossibleMom on BlogHer. Have you had to deal with bullying? Love to hear other takes on it.
Have a great weekend!
Thanks to Darah Zeledon for this one, don’t miss her links at the bottom!
I mean, my parents were always forty and they were full-fledged adults talking about mortgages, Tupperware parties, cruise-ship vacations to the Bahamas and car pool schedules. You know, boring stuff that as a kid, I swore to myself that I would never utter a word about such mundane trivialities.
Hi all! It’s been a light week here as I dig out from vacation, struggle with returning to ‘real’ life, and try to curb my internet addiction a bit. I’ve only posted one FB status since I got home, and about 3 tweets. Is that good for traffic, probably not, but it’s good for me so that’s what counts. I have some posts brewing about all that, but in the meantime here are just a couple of links, but quality ones, so enjoy!
- The Shape of a Mother : This site is SO good! It’s full of real (ie non professional or retouched in any way) photos of mom bodies. Sagging boobs and bellies, stretch marks, all the things that we all struggle with but rarely show each other. It’s so good to see and know and hear that I’m not alone in my struggle with how I look. I may not fight weight, but I hate my sags and bulges where none used to be. Found via Mothering mag.
- Six Ways to Help the Angry Child : I need to re-read this one, as I have one that’s sunny as they come, and one that’s often angry. Of course the sunny one has started imitating the older one’s behavior, but in a mostly comical way which is also hard to deal with!
Only two, but both worth checking out for sure. Enjoy, and have a great weekend!
I don’t know if I’m just not that aware, but I swear I always get caught off guard when my period rolls around. If I bother to count days, I’m incredibly regular I think, but I just can’t seem to find the interest or time to keep track. I inevitably get some PMS, but not a ton (extra sleepy and hyper emotionally sensitive) but I never seem to clue in that it’s signaling something. To be honest it’s usually my husband who notices that I’ve been sleeping on my back again for a night or two, and comments that I must be close.
In other ways I’m pretty aware of my body and it’s needs …