Q of the Week : How do you set personal boundaries?

I’m amazingly bad at setting boundaries.  I bite off more than I can chew, and then have little left for what I really want to do.  I say yes and then regret it, hating to disappoint people.  I pick up the phone when I should be working, and then fail to tell the caller I can’t really chat, feeling antsy half the time I’m talking.  I say no when I’ve planned badly, and have to skip out on something I really wanted to do because I didn’t set good boundaries elsewhere. 
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Tip Tuesday : Give Yourself a Break

I know, I know, it’s a tired old phrase but the reminder is no less necessary.  If you’re having a rough time, frustrated, or out of ideas, just give yourself a break!  I’ve hit a rough patch in homeschooling, and while I’m not one bit surprised, it’s still hard and somewhat demoralizing.  It’s a huge thing to adjust to, and we both have our issues. I’m struggling with feeling incompetent and impatient, two hot buttons of mine.  No surprises there to any who know me :).  I’ve had to step back a bit, and take stock of where I am, where he’s going, and watch and reflect for awhile.

One of the things I’ve been pushing is writing, which he needs work on, but every angle I try, I get huge amounts of resistance tossed back at me.  Rather than continue to battle him on it, I’m dropping it for now.  I’ll pick it up again eventually, but when we’re both ready, and not so battle scarred from trying!  He’s not going to fall behind, and dragging us both through something we both hate is pointless.  It’s more about our relationship, and less about writing I think.  We both need to relax and build some things together before we try to write.  Do what we’re good at, and let that drive the foray into things we both find challenging. He needs the break as much as I do.

A break is a good thing, no matter what you need a break from.  Chances are, returning to it will be all the sweeter and easier!

Hamster Wheel Days

You have those days, don’t you?  Where you try to pack everything in, speed up faster and faster and somehow think you CAN do it all!  Make three meals, check.  Homemade tortillas too, check.  Chisel away at that messed-up cast iron pan you picked up for cheap, check.  Homeschool (sort of), check.  Run for half an hour, check.  Make a shoulderbag for your swap buddy, check (but not too closely!). Fix the fundraiser ticket-ordering on your son’s preschool website, check.  Grocery shop, check. 

These are the days that I foolishly try to ‘compensate’ for thinking I’m lazy the other days. 

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